Demand Avoidance and the PDA Profile: What Parents Need to Know
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Visual Routines
Routines for a Child Who Resists All of Them starting from almost nothing.
You have built four routines and your child has refused all four. At this point adding a fifth feels less like a plan and more like a habit.
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Why it works here
Why a visual routine helps with routines for a child who resists all of them
Consistent refusal across every routine usually means the format is being experienced as a demand rather than a support. The way through is to shrink until something succeeds, then grow from there, rather than to keep presenting new versions of the same size.
You will recognize this if
- Every routine you build gets refused, regardless of content.
- Refusal scales with how directly the routine is presented.
- Your child refuses things they visibly want to do.
The setup
How to set it up for building routines for a child who resists all of them
Takes about five minutes. Use it as written, or keep only the steps your family needs. A short setup that gets used beats a complete one that gets abandoned in week two.
- 1 Cut to a single routine with two steps, and no more
- 2 Choose something your child already does willingly, so it starts as a description
- 3 Remove every reward and every consequence from it
- 4 Offer it rather than presenting it, and accept a refusal
- 5 Let your child change or reorder it at any time
- 6 Add a third step only after two weeks of the first two running
The mistake most families make
Building a fifth routine after four refusals repeats the same experiment. Shrinking below the point of refusal is the only variable that has not been tried.
In the app
Built into the routine, not bolted onto it.
The Visual Routines lives inside the same routine your child already follows, so building routines for a child who resists all of them is a step with a visible length rather than a separate tool somebody has to remember to open.
- Attach it to any step in any routine
- Works for pre-readers, gestalt language processors, and AAC users
- Same setup at home, at school, and in therapy
Set this up for your child.
Five minutes to build, and your child sees it every time building routines for a child who resists all of them comes around.
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Common questions
About building routines for a child who resists all of them
Why does my child refuse things they enjoy?
For some children the demand itself is the barrier rather than the task, and a request can make a wanted activity unavailable. That pattern is worth recognizing rather than pushing through.
Should I use rewards to get started?
Usually not with this profile. A reward is a contingency, and contingencies read as demands to a child who is already resisting being directed.
How small is small enough?
Small enough that it succeeds. If two steps get refused, try one, and if one gets refused, describe what your child already does rather than asking for anything.
VizyPlan supports routines and communication at home and school. It is not a medical device and does not diagnose or treat any condition. Talk to your child's care team about clinical questions.
